I went to bed before 2.00am last night, but not by much. I woke up late again, about 11.30, feeling lethargic and depressed, but unlike the last few days once I had managed to get up and eat some breakfast, I felt a lot better, so I decided I would go to see Blade Runner 2049 after all, despite my reservations (about my ability to concentrate, about the film making me depressed and about possible gore), primarily to try to get something positive out of this holiday other than a load of chores completed (most of which will have to be done again soon).
I tried to see it as a bit of an experiment regarding my tolerance for sensory stimulation. I think I was mostly OK with loud noise, except when it was very loud and I could feel the vibrations. But sudden loud noise was more problematic, not just explosions and gunshots, but people shouting and even a single note played on a piano in an echoey room. They all made me jump and feel uncomfortable.
The film was also too gory for me, but I coped, mostly by avoiding looking at the screen during the violence.
Emotionally, I was mostly OK, but in the last fifteen minutes or so I started feeling quite lonely. I don’t know if that was because loneliness was perhaps a theme of the film (the hero has a holographic girlfriend, presumably because as a replicant, he isn’t allowed a real one, but it could be that he just has “issues”), but in any case, going to the cinema or the theatre always makes me feel depressed and lonely particularly at the end, I’m not sure why (because there’s usually a love story? Because people go to the cinema or theatre with their significant other? Because the story in the film or play is neatly tied up, even if the ending is sad, whereas my life goes round in circles, on and on without getting better? Or just because the actors get applauded for their work (literally in the theatre) and I feel no one notices me?). I had noticed the depression before and know it’s something I just have to put up with in my very rare trips to the theatre or the cinema, but I don’t think I really registered the loneliness as something that happens until today. But then on the bus on the way home I didn’t feel like reading and I wasn’t sure why, whether I was depressed or just wanted to rest my eyes, but listening to music I was suddenly on the verge of tears and was for some time afterwards.
Like the Doctor in Logopolis, I sometimes feel I should be running a tighter ship. On the bus I was thinking that perhaps I should stop blogging, because it feels a bit like prostituting my deepest thoughts (well, some of them. Most of them, if I’m being honest. This is about as deep as it gets, sorry) for very little return. I rarely get comments, although I love to get them (positive ones, anyway), but I think I offended the last person who commented, which wasn’t my intention. I get a few likes on most posts, so I guess there are about a dozen people out there who get something out of what I write, although don’t ask me what. I won’t stop, though. I know I don’t have the self-control. I’ve tried to stop confessional blogging in the past, but I always come back to it, unlike my other types of writing. I’m obviously a very confessional person, at least online, which doesn’t fit at all with the image I would like to have of myself as someone self-contained and resilient.
This also makes me worry about relationships – that I’m too self-centred to cope with a proper relationship. It’s easier to fantasise about what I would like to gain from a relationship than it is to think about what I can give. Is that the same for everyone, I wonder, or is it just my romantic or even social inexperience? Or am I just plain selfish? I should have the evidence of my one previous relationship to disprove that (where my ex repeatedly told me that I was good at being there for her, better than she was at being there for me), but it’s hard to hold on to something like that when a holographic girlfriend seems like the only one who could be interested in me, and not be pushed away by my mental health issues and borderline autism and the solipsism they sometimes induce.